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I sat in my car outside Carol’s house for ten minutes.
I almost turned around.
Then I remembered the letter.
“Bring yourself.”
So I went inside.
Carol opened the door.
She stared at me.
Then hugged me so hard I nearly lost my glasses.
Nobody asked me why I had disappeared.
Nobody made me explain.
They handed me wine and argued about a novel I hadn’t finished.
I went home feeling like someone had returned a piece of me.
The next morning, I told David.
He looked smug.
“Don’t.”
“I didn’t say anything.”
“Your face did.”
“My face is handsome.”
“Your face is annoying.”
“Still married me.”
“I have regrets.”
“Clearly.”
Four months have passed now.
David is still at Meadow Ridge.
His health hasn’t improved much.
Some days are good.
Some aren’t.
But I am sleeping.
Eating.
Seeing Janet more because our time together isn’t spent transferring her father from bed to chair.
I see my grandchildren again.
Last Saturday, I took them for ice cream.
For two hours, I didn’t think about medication once.
Then I felt guilty.
The guilt still comes.
Maybe it always will.
But now I recognize it.
It isn’t proof I’ve done something wrong.
Sometimes it’s just grief wearing a judge’s robe.
David asked me last week if I still had the letter.
“Yes.”
“Where?”
“Nightstand.”
“Your side?”
“Yes.”
“Good.”
“Why?”
He smiled.
“In case you start getting stupid again.”
I laughed.
Then he took my hand.
“You know what I was most afraid of?”
“What?”
“That you’d keep me home until you hated me.”
I stared at him.
“I could never hate you.”
“No?”
“No.”
“You hated me a little.”
I opened my mouth.
Then closed it.
He smiled.
“See?”
My eyes filled.
“I hated needing to be needed every second.”
“I know.”
“I hated being scared all the time.”
“I know.”
“I hated when you called me right after I sat down.”
“I definitely knew that one.”
I laughed and cried at the same time.
“But I never hated you.”
He squeezed my hand.
“I know.”
That was the difference.
I wish someone had told me earlier that caregivers can resent the work without resenting the person.
That exhaustion can sit right beside love.
That wanting help does not mean wanting someone gone.
I had turned care into a test.
If I loved David enough, I would keep him home.
If I were a good wife, I would never get frustrated.
If I had meant my vows, I would be able to do this indefinitely.
None of that was true.
Love did not make me a nurse.
Marriage did not make me physically stronger.
And promises made when we were healthy did not require me to destroy myself once illness changed the rules.
David understood that before I did.
Seven years before I needed permission, he wrote it down and hid it in a nightstand.
I sometimes wonder whether he knew exactly what kind of woman I would become when the time came.
Of course he did.
He’d been married to me for 41 years.
Last Sunday, we watched an old movie in the Meadow Ridge television room.
Halfway through, David fell asleep.
His head tilted toward me.
For a second, I looked around.
Other residents.
Nurses.
Wheelchairs.
A television mounted too high on the wall.
This was not the life we’d planned.
Then David woke and whispered, “You still here?”
I took his hand.
“Yeah.”
He closed his eyes again.
“Good.”
And for the first time since moving him there, that word didn’t hurt.
I was still taking care of my husband.
I had just finally stopped believing I had to do all of it alone.
What would you have done if you were Linda?
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